Even when you openly recognize that you are clearly involved in a narcissistic relationship that doesn’t mean you want to leave, it can be more a case of how do I make this partnership as good as possible in the circumstances?
There are many reasons why you might want to make the relationship work and plenty of avenues you can explore to put your mind in the best place possible, such as undertaking secure and effective telehealth therapy, for instance.
Here are some key points to consider.
Accept realistic possibilities
The underlying character of a true narcissist is the fact that they do not have it in their DNA to be able to accept blame for their actions.
Their world is very black and white in terms of either believing that they are in a state of perfection, or the polar opposite, a feeling of little worth. There is not really much middle ground in between those two extremes.
As long as you understand these parameters it can make it easier to live with someone who shows these personality traits.
Select your battles wisely
As you will no doubt know if you live with someone who has a narcissistic personality, you could be permanently at odds with your partner when the insults are flying on a frequent basis.
It is usually far better to pick your battles and allow some of the comments you receive to pass you by.
Be firm with your boundaries
Everybody has boundaries and this is a challenge because a narcissist does not observe or respect them.
Having said that, your goal should be to make it clear where your limits are and enforce those boundary lines when they are crossed, as this will give you an element of control and help your survival rate.
Learn to understand the abuse cycle
Even though verbal and physical abuse should never be tolerated it can help if you at least understand the abuse cycle demonstrated by someone with this personality as this will help you to cope.
There are a number of key stages to this cycle of abuse and when you understand and recognize them it will often allow you to develop a coping mechanism.
Feed their need for attention
A good strategy for surviving a narcissistic relationship is to give your partner that regular spot in the limelight that they crave on a daily basis.
Giving them positive praise for the way they look and how well they are doing in making their way in life, for example, helps to feed the ego that is at the very heart of someone with this type of personality.
You might think that this is disingenuous and even a bit manipulative, but if you feed their need for attention with regularity it can often keep the relationship intact and allow you to gain a better understanding of what makes them tick.
Surviving a narcissistic relationship is always going to be a challenge, but there are ways and means to retain an element of control under your terms.